Raminta Marcinonytė – playing with yourself when you are in a relationship: shame, addiction, or a deeper level of intimacy?

Raminta Marcinonytė – coaching specialist, intimacy and relationship crises.

I am a coaching specialist, accompanying women through relationship crises for more than three years. My path began with science – I am a medical biologist, having worked for more than a decade with sexually transmitted diseases. This experience gave me a unique advantage – the ability to combine the physiological processes of the body related to sexual attraction with the psychological aspects of relationships into one whole. This synthesis is what makes me distinctive in my field.

Working with women, I see that intimacy often becomes the axis of relationships – quietly hidden, yet at the same time the theme that reveals everything most clearly. The question “what is your sex life like?” often opens up not only the quality of a relationship, but also a person’s connection with herself.

At the Eros 2025 festival I will speak about a sensitive but also very intriguing topic – playing with yourself while being in a relationship. Is it a threat to intimacy, or on the contrary, an opportunity to spark even more passion and get to know yourself and your partner? Very often couples do not know where masturbation should stand in this place: is it a secret territory, or an open part of intimacy?

November 22nd, Saturday, 22:00, on the stage of Hall 4 presentations
Raminta Marcinonytė on: “Masturbation while having a partner: a spice for intimacy or a secret competitor?”

We are constantly surrounded by many myths – that playing with yourself can become an addiction, that it means dissatisfaction in a relationship, that in “normal” relationships it should not exist at all. But is that really true? In this meeting we will speak openly: how our fantasies and thoughts are directly connected to bodily sensations, how “forbidden zones” often become the greatest source of relationship energy, and where in fact playing with yourself should belong in long-term relationships.

This will not be just another theoretical lecture – it will be a conversation about real feelings, desires, shame, and courage. About what we quietly carry inside, but rarely dare to say even to our partner. Because only by speaking openly can we create intimacy that is alive, authentic, and full of pleasure.